That's along the lines of how I was feeling about it.
"The rule of thumb seems to be that the more successful the woman, the less likely it is she will find a husband or bear a child."
Or maybe it's that they're making choices. In my continuing addiction to Murphy Brown reruns, last night's was pretty relevant. Corky's was unhappy because her husband didn't seem satisfied with having her as the breadwinner, and she couldn't figure out how to be a top journalist, traveling frequently, etc., plus be a mommy who was home with the kids all the time, and everything else. She said her mother told her she could have it all, but she was starting to think her mother was wrong. Then she said, "But you figured that out a long time ago, didn't you, Murphy?"
Murphy has the men, and the baby by accident, but she's not home baking cookies for him all the time, and she works in an awfully flexible workplace compared to most of the rest of us. Her career takes hits when she chooses to have the baby. While you can have the successful career and the baby, you also can't be in two places at once. If there were a husband there too, you can't be in three places at once.
And I think a lot of those high-powered career women know they're making that choice and do so on purpose, the same way I know women who, as strange as it sounds to me, are choosing to be mommies and only mommies.
But on top of all that, I heard another report the other day that said (if I'm remembering right) that now in 30% of dual income couples, the woman is the higher wage-earner. It doesn't seem to be causing all this drama for all of us. There are men who are willing to do their share of the chores, be supportive of you being as successful as you want to be, and having their own successes, too. And I don't think they're such a rare breed.
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"The rule of thumb seems to be that the more successful the woman, the less likely it is she will find a husband or bear a child."
Or maybe it's that they're making choices. In my continuing addiction to Murphy Brown reruns, last night's was pretty relevant. Corky's was unhappy because her husband didn't seem satisfied with having her as the breadwinner, and she couldn't figure out how to be a top journalist, traveling frequently, etc., plus be a mommy who was home with the kids all the time, and everything else. She said her mother told her she could have it all, but she was starting to think her mother was wrong. Then she said, "But you figured that out a long time ago, didn't you, Murphy?"
Murphy has the men, and the baby by accident, but she's not home baking cookies for him all the time, and she works in an awfully flexible workplace compared to most of the rest of us. Her career takes hits when she chooses to have the baby. While you can have the successful career and the baby, you also can't be in two places at once. If there were a husband there too, you can't be in three places at once.
And I think a lot of those high-powered career women know they're making that choice and do so on purpose, the same way I know women who, as strange as it sounds to me, are choosing to be mommies and only mommies.
But on top of all that, I heard another report the other day that said (if I'm remembering right) that now in 30% of dual income couples, the woman is the higher wage-earner. It doesn't seem to be causing all this drama for all of us. There are men who are willing to do their share of the chores, be supportive of you being as successful as you want to be, and having their own successes, too. And I don't think they're such a rare breed.